In today’s video, I share how dating changed after I beat retroactive jealousy and set boundaries







Read or watch below to learn how I navigated relationships after I beat retroactive jealousy and the strategies that helped me move forward.



















Zachary Stockill: In today’s video, I’m doing something I haven’t done much recently on this channel—I’ll be answering one of your questions about my personal experience with retroactive jealousy.







My name is Zachary Stockill, and I’ve helped thousands of men and women around the world overcome retroactive jealousy and strengthen their relationships.







If you’d like to learn more about my work or are interested in working with me one-on-one, please click here.







For those who are new here, the term retroactive jealousy refers to unwanted intrusive thoughts, obsessive curiosity, and what I call mental movies about a partner’s past relationships or sexual history.







And if you take a look at the book right behind me—my first book, Overcoming Retroactive Jealousy—you’ll see that this issue isn’t just theoretical for me.







It’s deeply personal because retroactive jealousy once took over my life, causing significant turmoil and nearly destroying my peace of mind for several years in my early 20s.







It was pure hell. I struggled with it during my first serious, truly adult relationship as a young man.







But eventually, I overcame it—hence the book—and went on to help others do the same, which is why I’m here talking to you today.







However, if you’ve been following my channel for a while, you might have noticed that I don’t often share personal details about my own story as much as some of you might like.







I think I’m so focused on the future, offering solutions, and helping people.







Sometimes, as some have pointed out, I might overlook the value of sharing more of my own story.







So today, that’s exactly what I’m going to do.







I’ll be responding to a comment from a viewer of this channel, which asks: Once your retroactive jealousy was defeated and you entered a new relationship, how did you manage?







Did you still feel a little retroactive jealousy and quickly brush it off? How did you handle it?







Well, yes—I’ve been in several relationships since overcoming retroactive jealousy.



















Now that I’m in my late 30s, I’ve been dating for about 20 years and have experienced many different relationships along the way.







I’ve experienced many different dating situations since then. It’s been quite a while since I wrote my book and overcame retroactive jealousy in my own life.







I think this commenter is genuinely curious about what that process has been like for me.







Looking back, my own experience with retroactive jealousy was almost completely irrational.







In other words, there weren’t any real red flags in my partner’s past—nothing shocking or out of the ordinary.







In fact, my own past was more colorful than hers at the time.







Looking back, it was purely irrational retroactive jealousy.